"i was looking back to see if you were looking back to see if i was looking back to see if you were looking back at me"

Question to one who agonizes over the agony of seeing self through other's eyes and shaping self always accordingly: Who is it who sees herself through other's eyes?

Response: The one who agonizes.

Question: Who is the one who sees the one who agonizes?

Response: I don't know.

Response to response: That one is your true self.